The big news this week is that Bruce Jenner, the Olympic gold medal decathlon winner, has come out as transgender. The man considered the “greatest athlete in the world” in his time, and the picture of strength and masculinity, announced on national TV that “for all intents and purposes, I’m a woman”. That takes great courage for anyone to do, not to mention his public persona and the fact that he did it on national TV. Bravo. Bravo!
In case you missed the interview, you can see it HERE
I don’t know exactly why, but it seems to be very difficult to be yourself. It could be a societal thing or a human trait, but fearing we won’t be accepted can be so strong, it often creates a lot of stress and pain. Being oneself should be the easiest thing in the world, but it’s not. Maybe because we are social creatures with such a strong need to be accepted. Whether on a job interview, a date, at a social gathering, among friends, being picked for the dodgeball team in gym class, or in that ultimate relationship with our parents, we all inevitably want to be accepted. Being excluded or rejected is something none of us (understandably) want to feel or experience.
One option to try to avoid rejection is to pretend we are something we’re not. I don’t think taking that path is sustainable. We often hear, “the honeymoon is over” after a couple has been together for some time and they start to see the “real” person they are with. Or how many of us have made a decision or two (or more) based on what we thought we should do instead of what we felt in our heart? It took Bruce Jenner 65 years to accept who he/she truly is. I know from my own life it would be much easier to be what I think people want me to be than to be who I am, but there is nothing satisfying in that. And I believe if you cannot be yourself, you cannot truly express yourself in the world. No one will be totally accepted by everyone, and I’ve learned that the most important person who needs to accept me is me. Once I can accept myself the way I am, other’s opinions matter less, and I am free to fully express myself. And then those who accept and support me suddenly find me and stick around. No more phony, empty relationships. No more games. Life is much simpler. I can breathe more easily, and I find myself much happier.
For some reason, it seems that life is a never ending challenge to be myself. As I grow and let go of “protective behavior”, so to speak, and relax into “myself”, I inevitably find another new level to uncover. It never seems to end. It is like an onion, peeling back layer after layer after layer. I suppose that is the journey of a human life.
A world based on acceptance would be a true Garden of Eden. People could spend their time expressing themselves and contributing to society and to others, instead of spending lives grappling to “be OK”, or to “fit in” or to “find myself”. I think Bruce Jenner’s “coming out” is helping the world take a baby step towards accepting others for who they are – exactly the way they are. Seeing this man we identified a certain way come out as being totally different than we thought he was – filled with overwhelming doubts and insecurities just like us all – is very powerful. It can open our eyes to realize that we are all the same – even with all our differences. Hopefully, it will help all of us accept the things about ourselves that we are afraid to admit, the things we have shame about, or the things that we are told are wrong about us. Once the world reaches a place of acceptance, life will be so extraordinary for everyone.
This struggle to fully be oneself is something I write about in different ways in my music. I touched on it in previous blogs, “Goodbye ‘Glee’, Set the ‘Boy’ Free”, and “A Stand for Oneself in ‘No’, Sparked by Sophia Loren”, highlighting my songs, “No” and “Boy”. A song I wrote that directly touches on the subject of becoming your “true” self, is “The Hidden Side of Me”, from my second CD, “Ready”. This song, with its drum and bass sound, speaks about the courage and pain it takes to shed the facades and walls we’ve built, to become that truthful, hidden part of ourselves. Enjoy!
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Holiday Music Sale!
Still trying to find the perfect gift for the music-lover in your life? I wanted to let you know that CD Baby is charging only 1¢ for shipping when you purchase my music on CDBaby.com between December 1st and 3rd.
Whether you buy 1 disc or 100, it’s only ONE PENNY for standard domestic or international shipping – TOTAL.
You can find my music right here: JAY JACOBSON ON CD BABY
In addition, my back catalogue of CDs are currently on sale for $9.99 each (regularly $12.49 and up) now through December 25th!
Here’s to a music filled holiday to all!
Critically acclaimed new CD, “The Ride” – shipping just 1¢
“This is an incredible album…Jay has one of the most distinctive voices in pop music today…On “The Ride”, Jay demonstrates a uniquely focused and sincere take on what it is to be a singer and a songwriter in the 21st century. His voice and music is at once as endearing, as it is effective in communicating pure, honest emotion!”
Includes the hits, “With Our Love”, “I Lived”, “I Need a Change”, and “Animal”.
CD’s now on Sale – $9.99 each! And shipping is just 1¢
“Warm pop grooves, expressive classical elements, and gorgeous harmonies, on top of his personal brand of emotional trip-hop.”
Includes the hits, “Grass is Greener”,“And Now” and the title track, “Peace At Last”.
“Framed and orchestrated in his emotional trip-hop style, his third CD release, ‘Revelations’, is an undeniable benchmark in his evolution as an artist.“
Includes the hits, “Love is Love”, “Break These Chains” and “Souless World”.
An eloquent tenor voice, expressive songcraft and melodies floating on lush waves of sparkling electronica describe his second CD, ‘Ready’“.
Includes the Top 10 International hit,“Boy”, along with “Hidden Side of Me” and “I’ve Arrived”.
“With a sterling suite of original songs, a magical tenor voice, and an incandescent vulnerability, Jay Jacobson reveals himself as a striking craftsman with his CD debut, ‘Infinite Man’“.
Includes the hits, “Beautiful Being”,“Marry Me”, “Give Me a Sign”, and the hit title track, “Infinite Man”.
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First let me say “Thank You” to all the people who have bought my new CD, “The RIde”! And I can’t thank you enough for the overwhelmingly wonderful comments and emails I’ve been getting about the CD. It makes my day every time I get one of these messages – you have no idea how much it means.
The CD continues to get rave reviews from critics. The latest one can be read here: THE RIDE REVIEW. For those of you who wrote reviews on iTunes and Amazon – thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! If you bought the CD and like it and haven’t left a review, please do so. Having many reviews helps to get my music into their search engines (especially on Amazon, so I’m told).
For a limited time (now through December 25th), physical CDs of my four previous CDs: “Infinite Man”, “Ready”, “Revelations” and “Peace At Last” will be on sale for $9.99 each at CD Baby (regular price is $12.49 and up)! It is a perfect time to complete your collection, and they also make great holiday gifts! The sale only is at CD Baby and applies to physical CD purchases only.
The first music video for “I Lived” (from “The Ride”) has been also getting incredible reviews and feedback. If you haven’t seen it, you can watch it here:
I LIVED by Jay Jacobson
More music video from songs on “The Ride” are on their way shortly!
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